emotional freedom techniques


Are you making these four sleep-depriving mistakes that keep you from getting in a good night’s rest?

Mistake #1: Thinking about all the things you have to do tomorrow.

What to do instead:
Make a list, before you go to bed.  No, really…  Just write it down so you know you won’t forget.  As you write, breathe and say “I can take care of this tomorrow.” 

Mistake #2: Drinking caffeine too close to bedtime.

What to do instead:
Know your cut off time.  This is different for everyone, and figuring it out takes a little effort.  And let’s face it – limiting caffeine is a really good idea.  Pay attention to the last time you consume coffee, soda or tea (don’t forget black and green tea have a lot of caffeine) and cut back by two hours each day until you find a time, when you are not wired before sleep. You may be surprised.

Mistake #3: Going non-stop all day long.

What to do instead:
Take a nap.  Power naps are really…well, powerful.  A 20 to 30 minute nap can make all the difference: you can boost your energy, get your mental focus back, increase memory and creativity. 

Mistake #4: Taking the problems of the day to bed with you.

What to do instead:
Use EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)  to resolve any uncomfortable feelings left over from the day.  EFT is a powerful self-help tool that is easy to learn and can quickly neutralize disruptive feelings and anchor peace, joy or any other feeling you might desire.

Then there are those times, when it’s really hard to turn off the thinking part of your brain.  You worry or jump from one topic to the next, and it seems you just can’t stop.  Your brain may be having trouble shifting into slower brainwave states. It’s the slower brainwaves that are the most healing.  Deep, dreamless sleep is needed for your body to turn on the most powerful part of your immune system. Mounting daily stress and age can affect your brain’s ability to shift down into these healing frequencies.

If your brain is stuck in overdrive, and all you do it is worry, toss and turn, or you just want to make sure you are accessing those healing frequencies, vibroacoustic therapy and brainwave entrainment may be just what you need.

To learn more about how you can have a more restful sleep call Twin Ponds Integrative Health Center at 610.395.3355.

Meg Deak, MCAT, LPC, EFT & Neuroacoustic practitioner

Living with Uncertainty

As a counselor, I sometimes find that the same issues come up for several people in the same week.  This week the issue has been uncertainty, and it’s only Wednesday.  Well, certainly, we are living in the most uncertain of times, and, as a baby boomer, I know that says something.

When I was a child, the fear was “The Bomb,” and I have vivid memories about the cold war era.  I lived near an Army reserve depot, and there was a flight path right over my yard.  At age seven, my best friend was the boy next door, also age seven, who was an authority on planes, because he and his older brother had built many model airplanes.  So, when the heavy transport planes and bombers would fly overhead, he would look up, shake his head and say with profound seriousness, “I’m not sure it’s one of ours.”  Those few moments were fraught with trepidation, until the plane cleared my house and he reassured me that it was, indeed, one of ours.   It’s easy to laugh now at my gullible little self and the boy who knew how to scare me.

Life is filled with uncertainty, and there’s always something we can find to worry about.  Worry is trying to control something, when we have no say in the matter.  So, how do we accept the fact that the only thing we can count on is change?  How do we ride the wave of not knowing? How do we live with an uncertain future?  Can we change the self-talk that fuels fear?

Almost daily, I see the changes that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can help make in letting go of the need to control situations and people. EFT can calm a person’s system as they come to terms with uncertainty and change.  In my practice, I have the privilege of watching a mother let go of trying to fix her adult children’s lives, a teen come to terms with anxiety about school, or an abuse survivor begin to feel safe in the world.  I wish EFT would have been around, when those planes flew over my house.

Stress Tips from Meg

“Tension is who you think you should to be.  Relaxation is who you are.”

This Chinese proverb really strikes a chord with me.  I think of the times where I’ve found myself really tense.  Usually, I had a preconceived notion of what I was supposed to be doing, or how quickly I needed to accomplish it.  Hmmm… pre-tense.  Pretense is trying to be or present ourselves in a certain way, often a way contrary to what we know or think is true.  It usually involved deception – of self, or someone else.

There is a Jin Shin Jyutsu, the ancient art of harmonizing the life energy in the body, hand position for pretense.   You grab hold of the little finger, which connects to the heart meridian. It can certainly cause a strain on the heart to be under chronic pressure, so this makes sense to me.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a particularly good way to find and release the patterns that cause pretense.   These patterns develop early in life.  Often by the age of 7 we have a pretty good sense of how we are supposed to be in the world.  Of course, life events can then tweak that perception, but our family and school experiences can set the tone for a lifetime.

Who are you supposed to be?  This comes from who your parents said you were supposed to be, or who you thought they wanted you to be.  That last is important.  As children, we hear things and try to make sense of them.  Sometimes, we make connections that are not accurate, e.g. my parent yells at me…I am bad…I am unloveable.  Other aspects can be: Who did you try to be to get attention?  Who did you need to be to free safe?  What did others do to get the same things you wanted?

Giving up the pretense and letting ourselves just be: that’s letting go.  That’s relaxation.

Meg Deak MCAT, LPC